The bond between mother and child is so often romanticized that certain aspects are not recognized for what they are. The maternal bond is more than loving concern and self sacrifice on the part of the mother. It is often a sense on the part of the mother that the child is simply an extension of the self. This aspect of motherhood is assumed to be a projection of the mother’s personality, due to a dictatorial nature taking the opportunity to establish a master-slave relationship. Dictatorial and controlling mothers may or may not see the child as an extension of the self, but most often simply see an opportunity to establish a dictatorship. Mothers who blur the line between their identity and the identity of the child are characterized by a weak personality, one that seeks to ally with others to bolster itself. This is the person who will become the clinging wife, the obedient disciple, or the member who joins groups only for a sense of belonging.
When such a weak individual becomes a mother, it is the mother who clings to the child, not the child to the mother. The child can hardly protest, as such clinging is not evident to strangers, who often see nothing more than what they would call devotion or interest on the part of the mother. Where such mother-child relationships exist, the child often develops a strong urge to bolt, and does so at the earliest opportunity. They leave home, decisively, and refuse to return. On occasion the confused identity the mother imposes on her relationship with her children takes disastrous turns, shocking those who cannot comprehend the outcome. If the mother is suicidal, she may take her little ones with her into death, despite their cries. In her mind, if she wishes death then they must too, as they are she and she is them - the maternal bond gone awry.
Those amazing breast
time to understand the beauty and power of breasts to shift infant health patterns in our community.
Numerous scientific studies and CDC data prove that our sky high infant mortality rates and increasing incidences of diet-related diseases in our young children can all be reduced by breastfeeding. But too many women don’t breastfeed because of their male partner’s attitude. Studies show that male perceptions greatly influence a woman’s breastfeeding initiation and duration rates. With our infant health and the health of mothers at stake (breastfeeding is proven to reduce the risk of ovarian cancer, breast cancer and heart disease), it’s important to ahve right knowledge about the breasts.
1. Breasts, are actually made of fatty tissue and mammary glands. Things to make milk. The breast contains 15-25 milk glands connected to milk ducts inside the nipple all held together with fatty tissue. In fact, the word "mammary" comes from "mamma," the Greek and Latin word for the breast, which derives from the cry "mama" uttered by infants and young children, sometimes meaning "I want to feed at the breast." So breasts were biologically designed to feed. And did you know, human are the only mammals with permanently enlarged breasts. In other animals, breasts develop only during pregnancy and nursing and then disappear. You can thank God later.
2. Yes, breasts bring pleasure to the owner and any visitors. In fact, there are thin muscle fibers and loads of nerve endings in the nipple that make them become erect, signaling arousal and also make them sensitive. This same pleasure principle often causes confusion for some men and women, who only see the sensual nature of the breast. Many men watch a lot of porn, which only fosters the oversexualization of the breast. But it has other, life enhancing functions. Lets put it this way, your mouth is also a sexual and sensual tool, but you also eat from it and vomit out of it. No one—ever, never has felt uncomfortable about eating because they used their mouth as a sexual tool. If we can accept that the mouth has both functional and sexual purposes, let’s give breasts the same courtesy. What do you say?
3. Breasts have super powers. “What I find especially cool about breasts is their ability to make the milk appropriate for the infant's age, making fore milk and hind milk to satisfy the infants thirst and hunger respectively, and to make antibodies that protect the infant specific to what the mother are exposed to,” says Melissa Bartick, Melissa Bartick, MD, MSc an internist and Assistant Professor in Medicine at Harvard Medical School.
4. Fascinating fact: The breast is an immature organ, one that only fully matures after going through a full-term pregnancy and lactation process. “Organs that have a job to do starting from birth like the brain, heart and kidneys, have a much lower risk of cancer. But an organ like the breast, whose job is to make milk, is immature and in waiting mode until the long maturation process is over and it can finally be put to work--which is why it is more likely to get into trouble,” explains Marissa Weiss, MD, president and founder of BreastCancer.org.
5. We need you. Our men matter. And when mothers report being uncomfortable about breastfeeding in front of male relatives, or that they didn’t breastfeed because their husbands and partners were unsupportive, it robs mothers and babies of an important nurturing and health preventative experience. Women need to feel encouraged to give their baby the best first food there is and that we can still also be desirable, sensual women when we are ready to be that. So, men, I implore you, for the sake of the babies, freely give your beloved breasts. Then stand back, cheer her on and be proud of what you’ve contributed to having a healthier, stronger, thriving child. Don’t worry, “the girls” will be back to you soon enough.
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